Monday’s Beyond the Mic… with Dr. Elaine and Lady Dawn B

Last night on Monday’s Beyond the Mic with Dr. Elaine and Lady Dawn B, Terrance and I had the chance to dive deep into a conversation about mental fitness and physical fitness.

Coming from different perspectives—me focusing on mental fitness and Terrance on physical fitness—it was amazing to see just how much our worlds actually align.

For me, it all comes back to this shift that I believe is a real game-changer:

moving from “Why is this happening to me?” to “What is this trying to teach me?”

That simple—but seismic—shift is what helps put the world back on its axle when everything feels like it’s spinning out of control.

Mental fitness, the way I see it, isn’t about pretending the hard stuff doesn’t hurt.

It’s about learning how to stay grounded while it hurts.

It’s about reaching for better questions when the easy ones—Why me? Why now?—could so easily drag you down.

It’s reclaiming your power not after the storm passes, but inside it.

A standout question from last night:

“If emotional baggage was gym equipment, what would be the heaviest thing people keep dragging into relationships—and how do we convince them to drop it before they break their partner’s emotional back”?

Mental fitness isn’t about how much you can bench press in the gym of life.

But—and this is where physical fitness and mental fitness found such a strong overlap—a strong mind still needs a strong body to stand on.

Taking care of your body isn’t about vanity or chasing a number on a scale.

It’s about honoring the vessel that’s carrying you through the heartbreaks, the detours, the victories, and the growth.

It’s about stamina, energy, resilience—the very things that fuel your ability to keep going when life gets heavy.

And the truth is, moving your body moves your emotions too. It gets you unstuck.

It reminds you that you are alive, still capable, still becoming.

In relationships—whether romantic, family, or friendships—both kinds of fitness are crucial.

Mental fitness gives you the emotional regulation, the compassion, and the steady hand to navigate life with another human being.

Physical fitness gives you the energy, the endurance, and the emotional stamina to be fully present for the journey together.

You can’t build one and neglect the other.

You can’t meditate your way out of a tired, broken body. And you can’t run marathons to outrun unprocessed grief or anger.

They work hand-in-hand.

Mental fitness and physical fitness—both are acts of love.

Love for yourself.

Love for the people you choose to walk through life with.

Love for the life you’re still building.

When you invest in both, you don’t just survive the storms.

You expand through them.

You create a life—and relationships—that are strong enough to hold both the storms andthe sunshine.